It’s easy to be indecisive. It’s easy to find excuses to not do things – circumstances, lack of resources, not the right time. It’s easy to defer decision-making to someone else – what should I do? What would you do? But, what is not easy is having an unmade decision loiter in your mind. We become uneasy when we fail to make a decision and let opportunity after opportunity slide by. This leads to a life of ambivalence and mental and emotional conflict.
So how do we overcome this? How do we learn to become skilled decision-makers?
At school, we are not taught how to make decisions. We are not always taught this skill at work either. But we can learn how to make wise decisions.
Decisions are made when we want something enough. When we have a vision. When we form a clear mental picture in our mind. Decisions are made even when we know there are obstacles and challenges. When we make a choice in advance to not have dessert because we made the decision beforehand to lose weight.
Decisions are about having a winning mind-set and seeing failures as part and parcel of the journey to success. So many great authors from Stephen King to J K Rowling, Agatha Christie to James Joyce, have had their work rejected several times before getting published. Having a decision-making mind requires guts, self-belief and determination.
Bob Proctor knows that circumstances and resources can get in the way of making decisions so he advises us to “DECIDE RIGHT WHERE YOU ARE WITH WHATEVER YOU’VE GOT.” The important thing here is not to procrastinate on making a decision and not to think of all the reasons why you can’t do something that you really want. The key is to say “yes” to yourself, yes to pursuing that dream holiday, yes to losing weight, yes to pursuing the dream job. You don’t need to worry about the means of getting there, the most important thing is to decide. Athletes get somewhere by saying yes to the marathon and then creating the plan later. Trust that the plan will come. You will find the resources.
My encouragement for you is to let go of what is holding you back and start making decisions today. Free yourself of the inner turmoil of “will I, won’t I” and start saying yes to what you really want.
Having pursued personal growth, consulting, and development throughout my life, I am now thrilled to be able to turn that passion into a business, by working with and facilitating Proctor Gallagher Institute’s “Thinking Into Results” program, that helps people live happier, healthier, more abundant lives.
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